Why it’s good – and problematic at the same time.
“What about you and the kids?” – “When is it so far for you?” Many people from the age of 30 are faced with such questions, but few answer: “It’s not possible.”
Not so Jennifer Aniston. “I underwent artificial insemination, drank Chinese teas and so on. I did everything for it,” the actress told Allure magazine this week. In the article, for the first time, she openly talks about her unfulfilled desire to have children, about the years of efforts and setbacks on the way to becoming a mother. Throughout their adult lives, pregnancy was speculated in the gossip press with every presumed belly-lift. And he accused her of being selfish, only concerned with her career, or responsible for her breakup with Brad Pitt.
She went through a difficult time, sums up Aniston. Now, at 53, he feels relief. The “maybe” tense ended: “The ship has sailed.”
Taboo: the unfulfilled desire to have children
The actress breaks the taboo. Few women, and even more rarely men, talk openly about their infertility. Familiar patterns or identifying characters are missing. Of course, this is an extremely intimate matter. But the subject is above all shameful.
Jennifer Aniston, who grew up with “Friends” in the ’90s, is far from alone with this tale of woe. In Switzerland, about 6,000 women undergo in vitro fertilization each year. When a woman is unable to conceive naturally and medically assisted insemination fails, many couples consider this option. in vitro (“In the Glass”) means that several eggs are taken from a woman, fertilized with sperm outside the body, and then placed in the uterus.
It’s a physically and emotionally – as well as financially – taxing procedure. The woman must take hormone preparations, the man must deliver the sperm to a hospital or fertility center, and both must attend numerous appointments. Despite all efforts, the outcome is uncertain. There is no guarantee of success. This is evidenced by federal data: one in three women undergoing in vitro fertilization will give birth to a child. Many couples remain childless. They prefer to keep their reasons to themselves.
Why their openness has a problematic side
Jennifer Aniston, on the other hand, has nothing to hide, as the magazine cover says. Many Americans applauded her openness on social media. Aniston, the voice of the silent crowd. Once again.
Already in 2016, she spoke from her heart to many women. In an essay for the Huffington Post, she criticized the social reduction of women to the status of wife and mother. “The sheer amount of resources the press is spending right now trying to find out if I’m pregnant or not (billions…but who’s counting) suggests that this idea that women are somehow incomplete, failed or unhappy unless they’re married and have children, is permanently maintained,” she wrote.
Aniston drew the line: what happens in my womb is none of your business. No one has the right to be informed of a woman’s reproductive plans. No one owes the public, relatives or work colleagues an excuse for having or not having children. It’s normal not to want to and not have to comment.
Therein lies the treachery of their latest pronouncements. Now she, who has always seemed to defy the voyeuristic curiosity of the tabloid press, has publicly declared that she is childless. And in doing so they destroyed the power of their previous message.